So you had a bad day.
First, it’s OK.
It happens to ALL of us.
But sometimes we can get stuck in the thoughts and feelings surrounding the issue and it can make us feel EVEN worse.
So how do we deal with our thoughts and feelings when something really serves to bother us or bring us down?
Here are 3 tips on how to deal with having a bad day.
#1 Take a Deep BREATH!
The first thing you want to do, whether the challenging situation JUST happened or it was something that happened earlier in the day (or earlier in the WEEK) is TAKE A DEEP BREATH.
Don’t focus on thinking about anything in particular or trying to ‘change’ your thoughts or your feelings at this point.
In fact don’t worry about what you’re thinking at all at this point, just focus on your breath.
This will help you to come back to the present moment, but it will ALSO help you to feel much better overall, physically, mentally, emotionally etc.
Honestly, your breath is your BEST friend and closest ally in all situations.
Aside from the fact that we need to breathe regularly just to stay alive, it is the ONE thing in your life that will always be there for you and that you can rely on, even when no one else is around.
So try to remember that.
Your breath is your BEST FRIEND.
So that’s the first tip.
#2 Change your STATE
The next thing you’ll want to do to change your thoughts and the way you feel is to radically change your STATE.
This could be simply a splash of cold water on your face, maybe doing some kind of exercise if you’re able to, taking a cold shower etc.
Just anything that will radically change the way you FEEL physiologically in some way.
This will shake up the energy that is connected to your thoughts that you’re having and help to dramatically free you up so that you can work on focusing on what you’d LIKE to be focused on.
When something bothers us, remember there are both thoughts AND feelings attached to the situation.
A lot of people say things like oh well just think happy thoughts or try to be positive, but how often does that really work?
The reason is that while this advice is trying to be helpful by addressing your THOUGHTS, they do NOT address the feelings and energy SURROUNDING your thoughts.
By changing up the energy and feelings that you’re currently feeling on a physiological level, you will RADICALLY change your ABILITY to think differently because you will have already changed the way you FEEL, even if it’s just on the level of your body.
So next time something bothers you, stop and focus on your breathing for a while, which btw will ALSO help to change your state as well, and then before you try to tackle your thoughts, change the FEELINGS that are attached to and supporting those thoughts FIRST.
#3 Work on Changing Your Thoughts About the Situation
Now that you’ve spent some time breathing and centering yourself, now it’s time to work on your thoughts.
In all honesty, your thoughts are EVERTYHING in your life.
They are far more powerful than you know, regardless if we’re talking about thoughts from a metaphysical or scientific point of view.
And as I’m sure you’re well aware, your thoughts are kind of like a riotous flow coming at you almost with no end in sight.
Well, while it is quite difficult to completely STOP your thoughts unless you’re some kind of super-advanced yogi, you CAN learn to become more conscious of your thoughts and then CHANGE them to something that you’d LIKE to be focused on.
This does take a little work and a little practice to be able to do, but aside from focusing on your breath, your thoughts are the MASTER KEY of not only recovering your sense of centeredness and well-being after having a bad day but of your ENTIRE life and where it goes.
Most of us simply allow our minds to drift from one thought to the next and don’t see the value in trying to control our thoughts.
But when you are able to have concentrated FOCUS on a particular thought, the truth is you can actually bring that thought into REALITY.
Now I don’t claim to have all the evidence or reasons or science behind why this happens, but all I can tell you is that it DOES happen.
Just take a look around you wherever you are.
Take a look at all the things around you, all the furniture, the house or building itself if you’re in one, or other houses or buildings near you if you’re outside.
Think of EVERYTHING that exists in our world, that is manmade of course, and really let it sink in that ALL of those things came from focused and committed THOUGHTS on the part of someone or a group of other people.
It really is amazing if you think about it.
So, you can do this same thing for your own health and well-being.
Again, it DOES require a little effort and self-discipline to be able to control and manage your thoughts and what you’d like to focus on, but it is WELL worth it.
Now when we’re having a bad day due to someone or something that bothered us in some way, either big or small, our thoughts tend to dwell on the issue don’t they?
We go over it again and again, letting it stew in our minds.
But if you think about it, all this is doing is making you FEEL worse and isn’t really contributing to anything constructive at all.
So start simply noticing when you’re having a thought that makes you feel bad or that is driving you crazy, REGARDLESS of whether or not you were treated unfairly in whatever situation you’re dealing with, and then practice CHANGING your thoughts about it to something more constructive and that makes you FEEL better.
For example, let’s say your boss yelled at you at work and it wasn’t really called for.
As much as you’d like to continue to think about it and fantasize about what you would have LIKE to have said to him or her, simply try to stop the thoughts, and allow yourself to think about something more uplifting and constructive.
Think about what you WANT to be thinking about.
It’s not about giving your boss a pass or anyone else that treated you badly for that matter.
This is about reclaiming your MIND and your LIFE from a situation that makes you feel bad and that you don’t want to be in.
Think about what you would ideally LIKE to be focused on in your life.
Think about your goals.
Think about your dreams.
Think about things and people that make you feel GOOD and that lift you UP.
Remember, whatever you think about on a regular and consistent basis you tend to manifest in your life in some form or fashion.
So if that’s the case, wouldn’t you rather bring into your life things that bring you JOY and happiness and makes you feel better than things that don’t?
So maybe you’d like to work somewhere else.
Maybe you’d like to have your own business.
Maybe you’d like to be in a position where YOU’RE the boss.
Simply practice taking back control of what you’d LIKE to be focused on, and try that out in times of frustration or trouble.
Write them down if you have to and keep them in your wallet or something to look at when you’re having a difficult time.
And notice how it makes you FEEL a bit better just thinking about things you LIKE.
So the third tip here is to simply work on recognizing and then changing your thoughts from what you DON’T want to what you DO want.
We’ll talk about becoming master of your thoughts another time.
Remember Your FOCUS is the MASTER KEY of Your Life
So when you’ve had some practice with:
- Focusing on your breathing
- Changing your state
- And changing your thoughts on the situation
You’ll begin to realize that whatever you’re consistently FOCUSED on in your mind is where your life will go.
It’s possible that you just had a bad day but overall you are in a place in your life that you really like.
If that’s the case then simply employing these 3 tips above will help you to move through your negative thoughts and feelings much faster so you can get back to your life and reclaim your day.
However, if you find you are in a situation where you are CONSISTENTLY experiencing negativity in your life and a toxic situation, it could very well be the case that you need to completely change your lifestyle rather than just changing your thoughts about a particular unhealthy situation.
If you step in dog poo, you can definitely clean it off your shoes and go on with your day.
But if you are in a place where there is CONSISTENT dog poo that you have to try to dodge or get around or constantly have to clean off your shoes, then simply cleaning off your shoes, or in this case changing your thoughts about the situation, won’t cut it.
It will take a complete change of your current lifestyle altogether.
Maybe it’s a partner or spouse that’s constantly toxic.
Maybe it’s the place you work.
Maybe it’s certain friends in your life.
Whatever your situation may be, after you’ve worked on conscious breathing, changing your state, and then changing your thoughts about the situation, really think about whether this is a once in a while thing that makes you feel bad or is more consistent.
If it IS more consistent, then you can start to use this same process to completely CHANGE your life.
Focus on where you WOULD like to be ideally.
Write it down even and review it at least a couple of times per day.
Allow yourself to really visualize and FEEL what it’s like to be in the position that you’d like to be in.
And of course, start taking some action steps toward making these thoughts into reality.
You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel AND how your life will start to change as a result.
And THEN you’ll find one day that you’re in a situation where you’re not CONSTANTLY having to change your thoughts and feelings all the time, or constantly wipe dog poo off your shoes, because you’re in a WHOLE NEW ENVIRONMENT that’s healthy, happy, and that supports YOU and your happiness and life mission.
Wrapping it Up
So the 3 tips on how to recover from a bad day are:
- Focus on your breath
- Change your state
- Change your thoughts about the situation
After you’ve gone through these three steps, you’ll then want to evaluate whether or not you need to change your entire LIFE situation if these thoughts and feelings are coming from a consistently negative and toxic source outside of you.
THIS is how you will reclaim your sense of well-being and mind if you’re having a bad day, and it’s ALSO how you can completely change your life and the people and circumstances in it if need be.
Remember, this is YOUR life.
And whatever you consistently focus on and feel in your day to day activities is what you will ultimately manifest in your life.
So where do you want to place YOUR focus?
Over to you now, are you struggling with a bad day today or perhaps recently in your life?
Have you tried something similar to the tips listed above to try to change things around?
If so, how did it go for you?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, feelings, and opinions in the comments below!
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